Ten Tips For Preparing a Successful Profile For Men
Catch her eye. Your profile must be outstanding. How you will do that, is your choice. Everybody can write: Male, Scorpio, looking for an attractive, etc., however, you better express your own personality, invent something, which will bring attention to your profile.
Everything is in the detail Perhaps, this is true, but sometimes it is better if some details are set aside. Your profile must be precise and reasonably short: if she will find it interesting, you will update her on all your characteristic details later. So, your personal description will be better if it is concrete and brief. Again, it is better to emphasize not the size of your shoes and color of your eyes, but the key features of your character, habits and desires. Perhaps, she will find interesting to know what kind of cigarettes you use, when you prefer to smoke and how much coffee you consume while at work, but, better to limit your description to the key features of your personality (clearly, the listed ones are not those features).
Address her right. Address her directly as you, your, i.e.
by all means avoid writing in third person. If you write (for example): “I am looking for a single woman, with sense of humor, who appreciates order in her life, but for the same time can find a joy in being caught under summer rain,” then she, even if this description fits her perfectly, most likely will pass it by, because, she will feel that this message is addressed to somebody else. Better to write something: “You are kind, cheerful, and passionate. You like to have an order in your life, but sometimes you can get yourself completely and carelessly wet under a warm summer rain.” Although both examples are very close in content, it is much likely that she will recognize herself in your words of the last example, and so you will get much better attention from her and, therefore, more chances for success.
Don’t be too serious. Your profile, of course, should not be an entire joke. However, making it as a formal memo is a bad idea either. This is not your curriculum vita or statement of purpose! So give her a wink with your words, trick her (just a little), but be balanced. Try to be serious and funny at the same time. Good sense of humor is always a plus.
Mystery. Never forget that you are writing to a woman. Some element of mystery and intrigue will stir certain emotional mechanisms of her soul. Leave a part of your story untold, give her an opportunity to fill the blanks with her own imagination and feelings. Perhaps she will ask you some questions, and most certainly she will find you interesting. Remember: the purpose of your profile is to start a dialogue!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Language. The correct writing often is taken as granted, while slips in the grammar are always noticed and taken into consideration. Even if you will write that you are a successful, kind and handsome entrepreneur with a seaside mansion in Malibu who dreams to fill it with kids and pets, two grammar mistakes will give her a serious doubt about your words and your maturity (even if every word your wrote is a word of truth).
Restrain from sexual boast. It is always better to keep your sexuality restrained in your profile. Unless you are looking into a short, 1-2 night relationship, it is not a good idea to emphasize that you are “passionate lover, who will drive her crazy, because you can make it 10 times over night”. Do not make yourself looking silly.
Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck.
